Sibling Rivalry – How to Prevent?

Posted by admin | Raising Your Child | Saturday 6 March 2010 8:36 am

Most of the parents often find it hard to reduce or eliminate sibling rivalry among their children due to their busy schedules. Let us read about some easy ways on how to prevent sibling rivalry.

In order to prevent sibling rivalry, parents should not delay action before this rivalry reach new heights. By staying calm and using common sense, parents can easily reduce frustration over quarrelsome siblings in addition to turning the fights to feelings of love and affection.

Tips to prevent sibling fights:

  1. Parents should never discriminate or compare their children. It is wrong for a parent to praise one and scold the other in front of each other.
  2. It does not matter what the occasion may be, each of the children should get equal attention and gifts of their choice; the choice of one child should not be imposed on the other one.
  3. It is better for parents to let children work out differences as taking sides only makes things worse. But when in doubt or expecting a fight, intervene. At times, parents are best playing the role of an amateur psychologist than taking things in a police mode.
  4. Always remember that the job of a responsible and caring parent is to protect his children, even from one another.

If you still experience your children getting into sibling rivalry, try giving them more of your quality time and motivate them to do things together so that a bond is sooner-or-later created between the two. Remember, parenthood brings responsibility and you just cannot shy away from it. The best way to perform this responsibility is to enjoy it with a sense of caution.

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Things that you must never tell to Your Children-II

Posted by admin | Raising Your Child | Monday 10 August 2009 4:17 am

Things that you must never tell to Your Children-IIOne of the biggest mistakes parents do is by comparing two or more of their children with each other. This creates nothing but sibling rivalry and even creates a long distance between parents and children. Despite the fact that two children have no problem with each other in the initial stages, you are making them enemies for life. This should never be done. You, as a parent, need to understand the fact that every one of us is unique in his own ways and there cannot be any comparisons between two different personalities. If your child has a weakness, accept it and make every possible effort to ensure that things are corrected before they go out of hand. This will help you win his trust, faith, and respect in you.

There are many occasions when a distinction is being made between a male child and a female child. It is important for you to realize that this is not only absurd but also unlawful. You cannot do things like that to your own child, who see an idol in you. This will erode the respect he or she has for you besides creating a void between parent-child relationships. If you are doing or scolding your child for these issues, it is essential that you need to have urgent second thoughts.

You need to understand that your child always needs your attention. If you fail to give him this attention, you cannot shift the blame by acting harsh to him. Be calm and respect your child if you want him to reciprocate respect, love, and affection.

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