Raising Your Child

Posted by admin | Raising Your Child | Saturday 13 February 2010 8:25 am

Raising Your ChildRaising a child in the best way is not that easy. Before deciding to become a parent, we need to realize that kids are innocent, but they are also completely dependent and emotionally needy it’s the parent’s liability to love and sacrifice for the child.

By following and remembering some few things, we can get great help to raise a high level of emotional aptitude in our children in a best way to ensure that they live a happy, successful, and responsible life as an adult.

Always keep in mind that your child studies you very closely and you should therefore prepare to be a role model for the behavior you want your child to imitate because they learn more from what they observe than what they’re told. So the best way to ensure your kids adopt good manners, habits and values is by adopting them yourself.

Know your child by spending quality time with them and show respect towards them if you constantly put your children down and compare him with other kids, they’ll develop low self-esteem and believe it’s good enough to treat others disrespectfully, including you. Love unconditionally, celebrate your children’s successes, and accept their limitations. It’s not required to always fulfill their demands saying no will give your kids an opportunity to deal with disappointment, and help them to control their desires.

Let your children speak their minds know you respect their views even if you disagree with them offer constructive advice, not harsh criticism.

We learn best while we’re happy, even though parenting is a serious job.

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Things that you must never tell to Your Children-III

Posted by admin | Raising Your Child | Wednesday 12 August 2009 4:17 am

Things that you must never tell to Your Children-IIIOne of the things that can hurt your child deeply is your habit of cracking jokes or be a part of jokes concerning any of his weaknesses. If your child has a problem like stuttering (stammering), autism, or Alzheimer’s disease or any other ailment, you cannot just avoid him or make fun of him or allow others to make fun of him. You need to be really strong in protecting your child from people near him otherwise you are unknowingly denting his confidence and losing his respect for you in the meanwhile.

One mistake that most female parents do is to threaten their child by saying that wait until your father returns. This will make the child traumatized and he will never be able to relish the joy of a father-child relationship. Moreover, passing the buck to your husband undermines your own authority and will mean that your own children will not obey your decision because they will come to know that you cannot do anything. Furthermore, it is totally absurd to ‘encourage’ the other parent by telling him half of the story to get the child beaten or scolded.

It is essential for a parent to realize that young minds are very sensitive and threatening them with statements like ‘I will leave you if you do not hurry up’ is not a good idea at all. Children fear for their safety and look up at their parents to offer them a complete sense of security and by making such statements; you are doing nothing but making them prone to depression, anxiety, insecurity, aggressive nature, and bad habits.

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Things that you must never tell to Your Children-II

Posted by admin | Raising Your Child | Monday 10 August 2009 4:17 am

Things that you must never tell to Your Children-IIOne of the biggest mistakes parents do is by comparing two or more of their children with each other. This creates nothing but sibling rivalry and even creates a long distance between parents and children. Despite the fact that two children have no problem with each other in the initial stages, you are making them enemies for life. This should never be done. You, as a parent, need to understand the fact that every one of us is unique in his own ways and there cannot be any comparisons between two different personalities. If your child has a weakness, accept it and make every possible effort to ensure that things are corrected before they go out of hand. This will help you win his trust, faith, and respect in you.

There are many occasions when a distinction is being made between a male child and a female child. It is important for you to realize that this is not only absurd but also unlawful. You cannot do things like that to your own child, who see an idol in you. This will erode the respect he or she has for you besides creating a void between parent-child relationships. If you are doing or scolding your child for these issues, it is essential that you need to have urgent second thoughts.

You need to understand that your child always needs your attention. If you fail to give him this attention, you cannot shift the blame by acting harsh to him. Be calm and respect your child if you want him to reciprocate respect, love, and affection.

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