Most parents, in today’s world, do not have enough quality time to spend with their children. The reason may be as genuine as busy work schedules and as stupid as social networking, but the truth is that more and more children are living in this world on their own.

Here are some do’s and some don’ts while raising your child.

Do’s:

1. Always try to be a friend of your child rather than just a parent
2. Understand the real needs of your child
3. Respect your elders and child and your children will respect you
4. Help your child learn different activities like swimming, horse riding, and games besides education
5. Encourage him to take decisions on his own
6. If he is wrong, let him know why he was wrong and how things could have been avoided
7. Talk calmly and hear his views and reasons of an act before playing the blame game
8. Always appreciate a good act
9. Do not discourage him when he is wrong
10. Do not teach short-cuts, which are unethical, to your child
11. Never abuse your child: physically, mentally, or socially
12. Do not nourish bad habits in your children assuming that to be cuteness or a matter of time
13. Do not force your decision or lifestyle
14. Never appreciate his wrong deeds
15. Do not laugh at his wrong doings, ailments, or weaknesses
16. Never compare your child with any one, each child is special

Don’ts:

These small yet meaningful tips can make all the difference when it comes to raising your child.

One thing that is often told by some parents to their children is that they (children) deliberately make things complicated though they are easy. Can you really expect your young children to be on the same platform as you are? If you are, you are completely wrong. Every one learns from his own mistakes and guidance of those he trusts. You may lift a weight or cut vegetables in a few seconds but your child may take it longer than you and he cannot be blamed for that. Try to encourage your child by saying something like, ‘When I was of your age, I found this thing difficult but you really did it to perfection.’ You should not be rude to your child just because you did not get the right treatment from your parents or some one else or for any other reason.

The most absurd thing that a parent can tell a child is that he must never have been born or he is the reason of bad luck. Jesus, how can you talk such bad things even before your child? If you are really making these statements, you really need to have a thought lift or preferably consult a psychiatrist.

In short, try to give love, security, affection, respect, time, and right attitude to your children to help them grow to the fullest. Do not be the first obstructing stone before them by raising a voice whenever they fail or decides to make their own decision.

The fact that children tend to get influenced by people and surroundings easily is often a cause of concern for all parents. This is the reason why dealing with them and ensuring that they are raised with proper manners and ethics are two of the biggest problems for every parent in this world.

It is commonly found that parents tend to say things that they never should have said when they see things going out of control. There is nothing wrong in influencing your children to act and think right but childhood and adolescence are stages when the young minds can make mistakes and you need to correct them and ensure that they are not repeated. Let us find why there is loss of respect and faith between parents and children.

It is very common with some parents to say to their children to act as per instructions or a witch or monster will come. This is totally wrong as terrifying your own child to get things done is an absurd idea in its entirety. You may make him traumatized and you will lose faith and respect of your child when he will find out that you were telling a lie. It is important to mote here that the authority and regulation of right decision should come from you and not from an imaginary or outside force.

You can help them make better decisions of life but the onus of making a decision must be left on them. Make them learn from mistakes and if they are committing or about to commit a big mistake, act to correct them immediately.